People around me I trust and who love me, no matter what.
People who set limits for me so I know when to stop before there is danger or trouble.
People who show me how to do things right by the way they do things.
People who want me to learn to do things on my own.
People who help me when I am sick, in danger, or need to learn.
A person people can like and love.
Glad to do nice things for others and show my concern.
Respectful of myself and others.
Willing to be responsible for what I do.
Sure things will be all right.
Talk to others about things that frighten me or bother me.
Find ways to solve problems that I face.
Control myself when I feel like doing something not right or dangerous.
Figure out when it is a good time to talk to someone or take action.
Find someone to help me when I need it.
From Grotberg, E.H. (1995). A guide to promoting resilience in children: Strengthening the human spirit. The Hague, Netherlands: The Bernard van Leer Foundation. Grotberg, E.H., (1998). I Am, I Have, I Can: What families worldwide taught us about resilience. Reaching Today's Youth, Spring 1998, 36-39. Quoted in Davis, Nancy J. “Resilience: Status of the Research and Research-Based Programs,” working paper, draft 5/28/99, on http://www.mentalhealth.org/schoolviolence/part1chp5.asp.